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Thursday, March 16, 2023
Thinking Ahead... but don't panic
Don't panic - there's nothing wrong.
Reently I started thinking about my funeral./memorial service. Not for any specific reason, but because it came up in conversation with family members as they relayed info about the memorial services they have attended lately.
I've prepared with families for many funerals over the last 30+ years... four of them in my extended family, and I think about those to come. Many families are unprepared to answer questions about hymns and scriptures for a memorial service. It saddens me when families say, "Whatever you pick will be fine." On the flip side, I love it when they bring in bibles and journals with well-read and loved passages. And I really love hearing stories - not the fancy, religious ones, but funny stories which reflect the character and relationships that made up that person's life.
The United Methodist Church has an excellent liturgy for the celebration of life.... the Service of Death and Resurrection and Service for Commital are theologically dense, and I wish that I had spent more time talking about them as a matter of routine conversation and teaching... when there wasn't a deadline or crisis at hand.
I also realized that I have a lot of opinions about what I want at my own end-of-life celebration. So, I pulled out my trusty United Methodist Hymnal and picked out the hymns I want you all to sing as we celebrate my life ... seven hymns... is that too many?
Here's the list:
- Praise to the Lord, the Almighty (159)
- This is the Day of New Beginning (383)
- How Firm a Foundation (529)
- I Come With Joy to Meet My Lord (617)
- Hymn of Promise (707)
- Precious Lord, Take My Hand (474)
- Thine Be the Glory (308)
- In the Garden
As far as scriptures go, I love the scriptures they suggest in the hymnal - especially the passages from Romans 8 and John 6. Also, I would like Psalm 27 instead of Psalm 23... there's a great John Rutter choral arrangement with a clarinet accompaniment if a choir pops up in time ...
I encourage you to think about what your end-of-life celebration might look like. Jot down hymns, bible passages, and prayers that reflect your life and witness. Talk with your family and/or your pastor about them. Put them in a place where they can be found in the grief of the moment. Be a part of the planning - everyone will be happy about that in the end.I think I want Robert Frost's poem, "The Road Not Taken" read at the end of the service. It feels like a metaphor for my crazy, mixed-up life.
https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/44272/the-road-not-taken
What do you think? What would your choices be?
Peace, Deb
Wednesday, October 12, 2022
Moving: We have two hearts
We have two hearts...
The sad heart as
we leave our German life behind...
tears of sadness for friends no longer on our daily paths…
missing daily trips for fresh pretzels
where will we find our special treats, Rote Wurst and Doner Kabab?
Saying goodbye
to American friends is hard and easy...
we are used to the give and take, the coming and going…
we often end up together again –
the family issued to us by circumstance…
some for a season and some forever.
But saying
farewell to European friends is just hard…
Many have lived in the same town their
whole lives…
People don’t come and go - a
disruption many have never had.
"Auf Wiedersehen" means “until we see you again...”
But we leave knowing that might
not be possible.
The happy
heart anticipates the plans we’ve made...
The last military move…
learning
how to be retired…
reuniting with old
and favorite friends.
a house of our own choosing and design…
new places to
explore and fall in love with…
The list seems
shorter and uncomplicated.
Yes, there is uncertainty ahead –
where is our stuff
and when will we see it again?
who are we when we
are not working?
But one day soon our new life will
unfold before us
and it will feel like it
was meant to be…
that is our prayer.
To be both happy
and sad
as we end one chapter and begin a new one…
It’s a most
wonderful gift!
Tuesday, July 5, 2022
Moving ... the only way to get to the next place (July 5, 2022)
I counted the other day, I've moved:
18 moves
12 times in the last 27 years.
11 US states, some of them multiple times
1 foreign country at 2 different times for a total of 10 years... the 8 years in our current house is the longest I've lived anywhere as an adult.
Shawn has moved more because he was in the Air Force over 5 years before we got married. And now we're preparing for our last military move, 5 years after Shawn's retirement from the USAF... we're using that last benefit at the end of its expiration date. We're coming back to the US to begin the next chapter in our lives - more on that later...
So here's my thought for the day - Moving sucks!
Originally I called this post "Moving never gets easier..." but the thought is more nuanced than that. There are many things about moving in the military context that stay the same, especially from overseas.
- Sorting stuff - Household goods, Drop shipment, Going with us, Give away, or Throw away
- Staying present
- Packing out
- Shipping cars
- Saying goodbye
- Preparing for a new reality
- Unpacking
- Making a new life
We are in stage 1 - and doing this 11 times together we know what needs to be done, but it's too soon for some of it... so we process, a little more every day... and we wait.
Because when it gets in full swing, it will be ... what it is...
... which is the only way to get to what's next! So I'm keeping my chin up and looking forward - into the future - and it might be hard, but it will be great!
Hugs,
Deb
(c) Deb Luther Teagan July 2022
Friday, July 1, 2022
What to do with righteous anger... (July 1, 2022)
On June 24, 2022, the US Supreme Court ruled that abortion access is not a right enshrined under the US Constitution. This turned back 50 years of settled legal precedent which said that the government had no right to interfere with women's healthcare decisions. I am angry and heartbroken. What do I do with those emotions? How am I called to serve?
Paul wrote to the Galatians to correct them in the midst of a dispute on whether Gentile Christians had to become Jews first - in other words, did the men have to undergo circumcision before coming to the Lord's table? Paul gave a definitive NO, just as he did with the Council of Jerusalem in the book of Acts. As we get near the end of this letter, Paul is wrapping up his theological treatise with a dose of practical divinity. Chapter 5 gives us a long list of what Paul calls "desires of the flesh." Among these are:
Now the works of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, debauchery, idolatry, sorcery, enmities, strife, jealousy, anger, quarrels, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these. (Galatians 5:19-21)
Now there's a list for you - and he ends this paragraph with a warning: those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
As the events of the last two weeks have unfolded - three different 1/6 Select Committee hearings and the Supreme Court decision rolling back women's healthcare rights, EPA protections, and limiting gun control measures, I flipped back and forth between anger and despair... both perfectly righteous in my opinion.
But this reading from Galatians, which was the assigned epistle reading for last Sunday (6/26) in the liturgical calendar causes me to pause and ask, "What do we do with righteous anger?" How do we respond to the perceived disregard for the physical and mental health of women and their families? Of the victims of gun violence? Of the desperate needs of our planet to change the ways we live?
It's hard to figure out because the first instinct is to lash out in anger, call opponents bad names, impune their reputations, and call their faith into question. Many feel this is the only justified response - an eye for an eye, so to speak.
But Paul tells us NO.
Live by the Spirit, I say, and do not gratify the desires of the flesh... By contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against such things. And those who belong to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also be guided by the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, competing against one another, envying one another. (Galatians 5:16, 22-26)
Well, crap!
Apparently, we are being called to a more measured, thoughtful, meaningful, and complex response when all we want to do is lash out. And that will take time.
That means that I have to stay informed, filter out conversations that are intended to sow discord, and listen to a variety of voices and experiences. And even when I have an opinion that is different from someone else's, I need to respond and relate to people in love.
That is a tough job, and Paul knew it. That's why he ends his letter to the Galatians with a reminder that love is at the center of our ways of living, and that we cannot produce that kind of love on our own. The fruit of the Spirit is also a gift of the Spirit. As we wrestle with the important and impactful social issues of the day, we must always let the love of Christ be at the center of how we embrace change, disagreement, or division.
We are in for a real fight. I didn't believe them when they said they were coming for our freedoms. That's bad on me. I believe them now. So this is the time for me to clarify who I am and how I identify. I am...
- A United Methodist minister - my denomination gets many things right, but we also have made mistakes...
- A proud progressive military spouse - you'd be so surprised at the number of us (spouses and military members) who identify this way ...
- An ally to the LGTBQ+ community - I am always learning new ways to be both supportive and an advocate...
- A supporter of a woman's access to all healthcare options... not pro-abortion, but pro-privacy and pro-choice...
- Someone who can learn new things and change my mind... it's called growing...
- Don't believe people who say your vote doesn't matter. It if didn't matter so much, people wouldn't be trying to take reasonable access to the polls away.
- Are you registered to vote in your current location... check your status at https://www.vote.org/ Some states have been purging the rolls, even if you voted in the last election. If you have been deregistered, register again.
- Get informed. Read about the issues from a variety of sources. These people are being elected to represent us - choose wisely.
- Choose a candidate or cause and work in the office, send postcard reminders... do something to support the process of fair and free elections.
- Vote in the primary, if it's still ahead of you.
- Vote in the runoff, if necessary.
- Vote on election day, save a vacation day if you need to.
- Register to vote absentee if you will not be home to vote in person.
- Volunteer at the polls, drive people to vote, or take care of kids so others can go and vote.
- Accept the results of a fairly won election. Don't become a slave to the big lie...
- Be brave. Speak your truth in love... you'll be surprised at how many people will be standing by your side.
Saturday, October 17, 2020
Looking for Thoughts and Musings? This is the place
Hi friends:
I've decided to divide my original blog into several themed blogs. It will be easier for all of us to find the things we're looking for, and I think it will be less cumbersome for me to manage.
This is the place where I'll be posting the random thoughts and musings of any particular day or week. This is also where the oddball photograph post will land.
Today I Walked the Labyrinth...
I've been walking labyrinths for almost 40 years. I took a class in contemplative prayer in seminary, and it was something that I have f...
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I've been walking labyrinths for almost 40 years. I took a class in contemplative prayer in seminary, and it was something that I have f...
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I counted the other day, I've moved: 18 moves 12 times in the last 27 years. 11 US states, some of them multiple times 1 foreign count...
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Don't panic - there's nothing wrong. Reently I started thinking about my funeral./memorial service. Not for any specific reason, but...
